Experiencing lack of control in our sexual lives can have significant effects on our mental health, our relationships, our careers, our personal well-being, and our views of ourselves. Whether it is a lack of sexual self-control or a compulsion, such problems can block us from our preferred directions in life. New technologies increase access to sexual stimuli, which has been shown to exacerbate these problems. In therapy, we can expose the dominant problem-stories, unpack their impact on different areas of our experience, including relationships, and reconstruct preferred realities for our lives and our future. If you are struggling with a problem of compulsive sexual behavior or lack of sexual self-control and you need support, please reach out to me – you can change your story.
My approach to therapy with LGBTQ+ individuals celebrates the insider knowledge and insights of the LGBTQ+ community. For those of us whose sexual expressions flourish outside heteronormative expectations and standards, it is important that therapy addresses our unique experiences and that it draws from personal and community knowledge. For LGBTQ+ individuals, personal problems are often influenced by dominant problem-saturated social and cultural ideologies. In therapy, we work to deconstruct and disarm oppressive forces that contribute to problems affecting our lives. I have clinical experience working with LGBTQ+ youth, adolescents, and adults struggling with mental health, substance use, and other challenges.
It is important to understand the patterns of family relationships and how these might influence our emotions, our interactions with others, the relationships we develop, and the stories we have created around attachment. Using a narrative approach allows us to understand patterns of attachment in a non-pathologizing way. Bringing together theories of attachment and narrative practices can help us revise relational and systemic patterns that do not serve us well. I believe that our relationships with ourselves come first, and that these relationships are influenced by the narratives we’ve learned to live by. Through the use of stories and reconstructive practices, therapy can help us break from thin conclusions that keep us from developing relationships that reflect our preferred experiences.
Nonjudgmental sex therapy must take into account the social and cultural stigmatization of certain sexual preferences, desires, and practices (such as paraphilia, distressing sexual fantasies, or atypical sexual behaviors), and must also address the impact of this stigma on the development of sexual identity and experience. Having a supportive relationship with a certified sex therapist can help you break away from constraints that keep you from living a meaningful life. My approach to sex therapy is non-pathologizing of human experience; I accept and appreciate your uniqueness regardless of social and cultural attitudes. My job is to assist you in identifying therapeutic goals that fit your needs. Our therapeutic relationship will be the foundation of our work together.
Low self-esteem, feelings of sadness and despair, anxiety, anger issues, or the effects of trauma can cause significant disruption in our everyday lives. When these problems gain control of our experiences, they can leave us feeling helpless. Narrative therapy can help us expose these problems and their harmful tactics. Through therapeutic conversations, we can develop alternative stories related to your hopes, your intentions, and your commitments, which problems often have a way of obscuring. Shedding light on the damaging effects of these problems while making visible your hopes and intentions can open up a world of possibilities. You have the ability to truly make a difference in your life, and you can start by going on a narrative journey of self-discovery.
When used excessively, drugs and alcohol can be a significant threat to our personal well-being. Substance-related problems diminish our overall functioning and can affect many different areas of our lives, including our personal relationships, our careers, our interests and passions, our hopes and plans for the future, and our self-esteem. Therapy can help you combat the negative effects of drugs and alcohol on your life. I approach substance-related problems compassionately and from a nonjudgmental perspective. In my experience working with issues of substance abuse, I have witnessed amazing changes in many of the people who have sought my help in therapy. If you believe you might have a problem of substance misuse, you deserve a chance to turn your life around.